A little privacy please…

I cannot be other than delighted for anyone about to have a baby…I still envy mothers to be their adventures in the labyrinth of birth…nothing quite brings you into the moment, every moment, like the life and death, breathe and pray, soften and let go, groan and sigh, sensation by sensation pure effort of labour…nothing prepares you for that single second when life changes forever as your little soul comes earthside and you see their face, can touch their fingers, toes, belly, nose…

Nothing compares to that moment of pure anticipation…this is it, this is labour, this is the beginning of my baby’s journey into the world…

And for millennia, mothers’ instincts have told them to find some place that is quiet, wtih subdued light, private, intimate…

Ina May Gaskin tells it better than I ever will…a woman’s cervix is shy, not made for the limelight…read all about it & smile for your sphincter

And so, the press are in place, the hospital surrounded, the consultants are debating how long they are prepared to wait…Let Kate decide…trust her motherly instincts to want to preserve her own life and that of her precious babe…

Why do doctors think that women need to be told they are in danger…I know so many women intent on *natural* birth or home birth who suddenly decide that hospital is the place to be on a gut feeling only to discover a baby lying transverse or losing its heartbeat on a trace, or choose that ahead of time based on sound understanding of risk factors that they cannot accept as reasonable…Women want to give birth to healthy babies, it is in our nature!

And a word to the doting grandparents/aunts/uncles/Godparent-to-be…don’t text daily from 37 weeks asking if there is any sign…don’t text hourly from one minute past midnight on the *due date* (for those of you who like to know, around 5% of babies arrive on the EDD) … when the new parents are ready, when their little one is safely arrived & they have had seconds or minutes to savour that intense joy, they will let you know…

So how about we back off…Will & Kate are having a baby, it is no more important that the millions of other babies that will be born in that same moment all over the world…It may prove to be a revolutionary ruler in the long-distant future, or a wise and compassionate soul who will provide guidance for a troubled nation…and so might the babies of the women who come to my pregnancy yoga classes…

Will & Kate are human beings, they need to be able to celebrate the joy of their baby, but they will be urged to appear smiling & proud for the cameras as soon as possible…to emerge from what should be a protected, sacred space celebrating the emergence of their new family to satisfy the baying crowd of paparazzi & reporters…

It will still be a baby tomorrow people, it will still be the *first* picture of the royal baby if you back off & wait a few days or a few weeks…

My deepest wish for Kate is that she gets a birth that she feels positive about…one that is not dictated by policy & the whim of an impatient consultant eager to gain his bragging rights about *delivering* a future monarch…I wish her a gentle labour, a beautiful birth…but I am realistic too…and if intervention becomes necessary then I hope it is offered with humility & compassion and that Kate is made to feel like a goddess (as should every birthing mother be) and that she brings her child into this world knowing that every mother around the world sees her as just that, a mother…

Bright blessings Kate, may your baby’s birth be peaceful & your babymoon be blissful 

OMx

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